Getting Back To Basics
No one can keep up a certain pace forever. We all have dominant and submissive tendencies, just as we all enter relationships with a certain amount of passion, caring, and loving. We all fall into various degrees of regression in relationships. Remember, when you first met your husband or significant other; he was romantic, helped around the house and bent over backwards to make you happy?
Whether it is one, two or even five years later, you realized the honeymoon was over. Enter cable tv and the computer, which took the place of sporting events and afternoons in sports bars. Where is this once romantic helper? Well, thank you Thomas Edison, Alexander Graham Bell, Bill Gates, and especially Steve Case from AOL.
I believe that with the advent of the male being preoccupied with electronic stimuli that coupled with the easy chair and light beers the once helpful male in your life has become a passive or shall I say a dominant passive partner in your relationship. Right about this time women become fed up with the situation. As one lady wrote in to Ask Vera this week. She is basically fed up with her situation.
We can either be the housemaid or become the dominant partner in the relationship. At this point we can decide if the relationship is worth saving or look for a new romance, only to fall in the same trap once again. I say that we become assertive and put some control in our male’s life. We cook for the family, do the laundry, clean house, pay bills, etc and still hold down outside jobs. Why should they be the only ones to relax at the end of the day?
This was the case in my relationship. Michael while working with many of the contractors during remodeling all of a sudden became a dominant passive. He wasn’t working hard and long hours, so was I. Once we moved I said that was it. As of one week ago I regained control of this relationship. I went back to the basics on which our relationship was founded.
Let’s not fool ourselves, we cannot be 100% of a certain personality all of the time. As we go in and out of degrees of dominance it is important that the male just be more submissive then where we are at that particular moment.
Whether it is one, two or even five years later, you realized the honeymoon was over. Enter cable tv and the computer, which took the place of sporting events and afternoons in sports bars. Where is this once romantic helper? Well, thank you Thomas Edison, Alexander Graham Bell, Bill Gates, and especially Steve Case from AOL.
I believe that with the advent of the male being preoccupied with electronic stimuli that coupled with the easy chair and light beers the once helpful male in your life has become a passive or shall I say a dominant passive partner in your relationship. Right about this time women become fed up with the situation. As one lady wrote in to Ask Vera this week. She is basically fed up with her situation.
We can either be the housemaid or become the dominant partner in the relationship. At this point we can decide if the relationship is worth saving or look for a new romance, only to fall in the same trap once again. I say that we become assertive and put some control in our male’s life. We cook for the family, do the laundry, clean house, pay bills, etc and still hold down outside jobs. Why should they be the only ones to relax at the end of the day?
This was the case in my relationship. Michael while working with many of the contractors during remodeling all of a sudden became a dominant passive. He wasn’t working hard and long hours, so was I. Once we moved I said that was it. As of one week ago I regained control of this relationship. I went back to the basics on which our relationship was founded.
Let’s not fool ourselves, we cannot be 100% of a certain personality all of the time. As we go in and out of degrees of dominance it is important that the male just be more submissive then where we are at that particular moment.
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